I had never heard of “Relationship Art Therapy” until last week, but it seemed like a good idea and so I decided to try it.
What you do is you draw little doodles and pictures about your relationships and it sort of feels freeing. Airing out the dirty laundry, and really laying out what went wrong in each relationship. I’ve dated 8 guys, 5 of which were “facebook official”, I’ve had my heart broken twice, and I have been in love once. I really recommend if you just need a release to try this, it helped with a lot of pent-up aggression towards one or two that I was holding onto, even though they weren’t the best pieces of artwork I’ve done. Here we go…
He was my first boyfriend and we dated for 3 years, it was in middle school if that can even count, and to this day he is the coolest person that I know. He’s a filmmaker in a band. So cool.
We oftentimes forget that we ever dated, we have such a brother/sister bond now.
He was the first guy I really thought I was in love with, I know now that I wasn’t, but he strung me along for years and years and it was anguish.
We have all been on both sides of the double-edged sword that is a breakup. He was a stand-in for the guy who had been stringing me along, only to date one of my closest friends. In the end, he ended up really scaring me after a fight we had and I broke up with him the next day.
We had the same friends, we talked a bunch, and he was there. Once I realized that the feelings weren’t there, I broke up with him immediately. I still feel bad about leading him on.
I was so in love with him; he was older, intelligent, gorgeous, and really fun. He taught me that who I was, quirky and weird, was worth loving. I still don’t really know why this didn’t work: He couldn’t make up his mind, 500 miles was too far, I was too young, he wasn’t ready, he couldn’t wait. Whatever it was, it broke my heart when it ended. We’re still friends today, but it took over a year for me to be ok with talking to him.
It is never ok to be in a relationship with 3 girls at once, he knows that now.
We went to dinner, to the movies, on a hike, and then I never heard from him again.
It feels refreshing sharing my nameless love affairs, and getting that out from inside me. I didn’t realize how not over some of those things I was, not romantically just anger really, and now I feel refreshed and like I can completely move on and past them. Leave them behind now. I recommend it if you need a release.
Much love to all of you! XO – B.