I am deeply sorry, my faithful readers, but I failed you when it comes to exploring the trials and turbulence of online dating.
I created my profile, browsed, looked at messages guys left me and ignored every single on of them. By October, I was dating a close friend of mine whom I met at Ultimate Frisbee. I was looking over all my past posts, doing a bit of pruning on what was important and what I shouldn’t have posted in the first place, and I was reading the Online Dating posts (which can be found here and here) and I realized how I failed you all in my adventure to find love online, or at least find a could funny stories about the crazies I met along the way. It was going to be great, I was excited about it and then something even crazier happened: I fell in love with someone who was unexpected and right under my nose the whole time.
Which brings me to an idea that I think people everywhere should start to adopt: I don’t believe in the “friend-zone”, I think that it is a made-up place that people used as an excuse when they didn’t want to give someone a chance and didn’t want to hurt them by saying it was because of something else. I never believed in the friend-zone. When one of my closest friends told me that he was “in love” with me last summer, I didn’t say no right away – I prayed about it and thought a lot about it and decided that that wasn’t right, and since then he has found love with someone perfect for him.
Robb*, my current boyfriend, was originally a close friend. A sophomore, named Robb (like my brother and brother-in-law) I had written him off as someone who I wouldn’t be dating. So we got close, and there was a inherent magnetism between us that many would have written off and denied, but we did not. After finally accepting, we jumped it, and risked our feelings, and it has turned out amazing so far. He makes me so happy and that just further proves that the “friend-zone” is a loud of bull crap, because I don’t think that we would have started on such an amazing high had we not started as close friends, and it also goes to show that all those stupid cliches about finding love when and where you’re least expecting it are very true. I didn’t see him coming, and I’m luckier for it.
So here we are: I’m sorry for failing you when it came to Online dating, but I hope you take my current love story and learn something about taking chances, and giving people chances. Sometimes dating friends doesn’t work, just look at ‘Forty Days of Dating’, but sometimes it turns into something beautiful!
Best wishes on all your love stories, present and future! XO – B.
*Robb is not his real name. No matter how much I wish I was dating Robb Stark from Game of Thrones. Just kidding, my boyfriend is better.